Nothing we do will ever end perfectionism.
It’s simple, really. We try and try in our human efforts to battle against the enemy of perfection, yet it continues to rear its ugly head.
I haven’t conquered the beast. I still live in the depths of high expectations for myself and very little grace for my many mistakes.
The battle of perfectionism is one I have been fighting for years. The battle is one I have been fighting for years with little success, I should add.
And believe me, that is not for lack of trying. Fighting. Pushing against the enemy.
Being a perfectionist can look like a lot of things. For me, it is oftentimes unrealistic expectations, long to-do lists that crowd out true rest, fear of the opinions of others, little grace for myself, and high anxiety.
The Abba Father utterly shatters these lies.
These 5 Bible verses about perfection are proof!
Colossians 2:9 “For in Him dwells all the fullness of the deity; and you are complete in HIM…”
My unrealistic expectations of myself, shattered. I am complete in the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.
Galations 5:1 “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free…”
Those long to-do lists that disturb real peace, demolished. God gives peace, grace, rest. We’ve been set free for freedom.
Galations 1:10 “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
Fear of the opinions of others, broken. Am I pleasing man or God? I desire to be a servant of God, therefore I am free from the bondage that is people-pleasing.
1 Corinthians 15:10 “But by the grace of God I am what I am, and His grace towards me was not in vain…”
Sparse grace for my mistakes, overcome. His grace towards me was not in vain.
Isaiah 41:13 “For I, the Lord your God, will hold your right hand, saying to you, ‘Fear not, I will help you.'”
That choking anxiety, crushed. He holds our hand. Need I say more?
I am still a perfectionist. I dwell in the land of striving to be the perfect wife, friend, daughter, sister.
I struggle to rest when the laundry is piling up and the dishes aren’t done.
I find myself repeating conversations in my head fifteen times before I have the courage to actually speak.
I proof-read papers five times before pressing that dreaded ‘submit’ button.
And yet, God is always present telling me that I am complete, free, covered in grace, and protected.
So, the art of killing perfectionism does not come from human strength. I cannot give you a ten-step process that kills the ugly monster. I won’t provide tips or advice, because I still struggle.
But praise be to the God who chooses to meet his children where they are. And sometimes, that place is standing over a sink of dirty dishes wishing you had the strength to leave them and rest.
He will meet you there, weary heart, with abounding promises of His steadfast grace. Invite Him into that moment. He wants to meet you there.
Nothing we ever do will end the beast of perfectionism.
Yet, everything God says has the power to set us free.
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