How to Show Grace When You’d Rather Hold a Grudge

My husband and I both have covered parking spaces below our apartment. We weren’t supposed to have covered parking, but our landlord is a nice guy who had some extra spaces.

My space happens to sit next to our neighbor’s parking space – a neighbor we hardly see but frequently hear. And this unseen neighbor loves to park as close to the yellow line as possible. Oftentimes, his tire grazes the edge of the yellow line.

And it’s maddening.

Life throws frustrations and upsets our way more often than we'd care to accept. In those moments, we can choose to hold a grudge - to complain and harbor bitterness - or we can choose to show grace. Here are some honest thoughts about how to show grace to others, and to ourselves, in the midst of an uncertain, sometimes frustrating world.

It’s maddening because I was told by unseen-but-heard neighbor to park away from the yellow line, and have respectfully done so. As soon as I began keeping my distance, he started inching toward the yellow line.

It’s a small thing – and insignificant thing – but it has the ability to turn my mood at the flip of a switch. One minute I’m happy and singing along to the radio, and the next I find myself frustrated and angry and – yes – I sometimes say things that aren’t nice.

It’s ridiculous, but it’s real.

Grace is also ridiculous and real. Grace isn’t ridiculous because it makes me mad over truly insignificant things. Grace is ridiculous because it’s the best gift you and I will ever receive; yet, so often we choose to forget it in the moments when we need it most.

Like when I turn the corner and have to squeeze my way into my parking space.

In the midst of my complaining about my parking situation, I was reminded of my need for grace every minute of every day. In my head, I know this. But in my heart, I choose to forget it.

What does grace look like in the mundane, seemingly ordinary moments? How do we live it out and remind ourselves daily?

Walk with me to the Arabah Joy Blog, where I share four truths about grace – and why it should change the way we view our parking situations, our little frustrations, and all of life that falls in between.

Read the rest of the post here.

Life throws frustrations and upsets our way more often than we'd care to accept. In those moments, we can choose to hold a grudge - to complain and harbor bitterness - or we can choose to show grace. Here are some honest thoughts about how to show grace to others, and to ourselves, in the midst of an uncertain, sometimes frustrating world.



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8 thoughts on “How to Show Grace When You’d Rather Hold a Grudge

  1. Oh man, those little things are the ones that can really get to us! In those moments it’s easy to forget who we are and to give the grace we’ve been given. Hopping over to read the rest of your post because I”m sure you have some great tips. I hope you had a Merry Christmas!

    1. Thanks, Valerie! “It’s easy to forget who we are…” Amen! When our identity is secure, our heart response of grace is so much more secure!

    2. Alison, I just love your honesty. It is so easy to,pretend these things don’t bother us. The grace God gives us is so wonderful, but we forget to use it, and He has filled us with His Holy Spirit to help,us in all lifes situations.
      Talking about resolutions, the one thing that I want to do for Him is to be more open about my faith, but I will study those verse you posted.
      Happy and Blessed New Year or you and all on this site.

      1. We do forget to use it! There is power in grace. I pray that you have a great New Year, Margaret! Thanks for commenting. 🙂

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