12 Bible Verses That Have Influenced My Life as a Wife

I think we all agree that life as a wife can be hard.

We feel discouraged. We fail at submission. We let perfection bog down our intention.

We feel unheard. We complain. We compare to all of the other wives – the pretty ones, smart ones, skinny ones.

This life as a wife can seem hard, overwhelming, discouraging, and downright impossible. But we have Truth to encourage us to live differently, to love well, to sacrifice daily, and to be about something greater than ourselves. These twelve Scriptures will encourage your wife soul this morning, offering some much needed grounding Truth for those moments of hard.

And because of all of this, we have got to rely on something other than ourselves for the encouragement to make it through. In the moments when being a wife is overwhelming, we have the Book of Life full of words that can shape our thinking and our actions.

We can let go of the hard stuff and rest in God’s Truth.

Here is a list of Bible verses for wives – 12 verses that should influence you as a wife:

  1. Proverbs 15:1

“A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

Our words have power – to kill & destroy or build up & love. I’ve witnessed this many times in my marriage. In fact, just the other day I completely disregarded by husband’s feelings and rushed forward with words of “wisdom”. Ouch. It hurt him & it hurt me.

Be careful with your words.

  1. Ephesians 5:2

“And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma.”

Christ made the ultimate sacrifice on our behalf and has now called us to live as servants. Yes, it is hard to be a servant sometimes. But in those moments, remember the all-important sacrifice Christ made for your life, your heart, your future.

We’ve been given grace. Now it’s time to give grace through loving your spouse well.

  1. 2 Corinthians 13:11

“Finally, brethren, farewell. Be complete. Be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.”

This whole verse is a command to live in a way so different from the world. But this command comes with a beautiful promise – that God will be with us. He is a God of love & peace. And He will stand beside us. Have a different marriage than those around you. Live in intentional peace.

  1. James 3:18

“Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.”

Are you a peacemaker? Do you strive to keep a peaceful home? The fruit of righteousness is sown in peace. Wow. We must live as peacemakers.

This life as a wife can seem hard, overwhelming, discouraging, and downright impossible. But we have Truth to encourage us to live differently, to love well, to sacrifice daily, and to be about something greater than ourselves. These twelve Scriptures will encourage your wife soul this morning, offering some much needed grounding Truth for those moments of hard.

  1. Galatians 5:13

“For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.”

The freedom we’ve been given does not allow for more sin. Rather, we are meant to live differently because of this great gift of grace. Are you taking grace for granted? Let it shape the way you love & serve your husband.

  1. Romans 12:2

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”

In a world bent on pretty wives, skinny wives, organic-cooking wives, and country-club wives, we are commanded to be unlike the world. Golly, this one is hard. But by Scripture, we are able to take steps to renew our mind according to the principles and truths of God.

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  1. Psalm 25:5

“Lead me in Your truth and teach me for You are the God of my salvation; on You I wait all the day.”

Let this be the cry of your heart. Wait on the Lord to work in you, through you, and for you. Only then will you be prepared to do this wife thing well.

  1. Psalm 19:14

“Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.”

What if we prayed this before we responded to our men? Maybe you need to make that a challenge – to let your words & thoughts be pleasing to God always.

  1. 1 Timothy 4:15

“Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them (ministry), that your progress may be evident to all.”

Walk in boldness, wife. Your ministry is to your family – first your husband, then any kiddos you may have. Above this verse in my Bible it says, “Take heed in your ministry.” Be about the ministry of your home.

  1. 1 Chronicles 16:11

“Seek the Lord & His strength; seek His face evermore!”

Enough said. If you’re not seeking God, you’re not growing. And you must be growing to love that man well, admit your weaknesses, and extend grace.

  1. Galatians 2:20

“I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me.”

As you go about the day-to-day, remember this. You can live this life by faith, with dependence on God, who are already loved you in the biggest way.

  1. Zephaniah 3:17

“The Lord your God is in your midst, the Mighty One will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing.”

Fulfillment comes from God alone. Your husband cannot fulfill you. This verse? It tells us that God has already fulfilled us – He’s in our midst, quieting us with love & rejoicing over us. Live from that & quit seeking fulfillment from that sweet husband of yours.

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These truths remind us that the wife life is important. These verses impact our hearts with the importance of living differently, of loving well, of being a servant, and relying on God.

Life as a wife is an important & holy calling. Embrace it. Live from the truths of these twelve scriptures.

Oh, and because I think you’re awesome, I’ve created a FREE Scripture Prayer Pack for wives who want to dig a little deeper! Grab yours by entering your name & email below!

A few months ago, I was feeling convicted about my life as a wife. I learned some tough lessons recently, and God has softened my heart to live from Truth. If you thought this post was helpful, you may enjoy Why I Quit Being a Good Wife written during that time of conviction.

22 thoughts on “12 Bible Verses That Have Influenced My Life as a Wife

  1. What a wonderful list, Alison!
    Thanks for sharing all of these amazing verses related to marriage.
    I know that I have to really watch my focus and thought life in marriage. I love, “Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them (ministry), that your progress may be evident to all.”
    Your posts encourage me!

  2. These are such great verses that help us walk in peace in our marriage and be unified. Giving a soft answer is a great one! And so often we have to die to ourselves in order to love our spouse the way Christ wants us too. So hard, but it certainly draws us closer to God and each other.

  3. Alison,
    Enjoyed this blog. I can’t help but maybe see how none of them really dealt directly with marriage. I ask a sincere question though. Can a woman be ‘so godly focused’ that she blindly ignores her wifely responsibilities with regard to respect, loving and sexual fulfillment.
    I only ask as my wife, who would never read this kind of blog (So I am safe posting here), has repeatedly said she can’t be responsible for my happiness. Which I can agree with somewhat, yet I also would reply the she does not have the freedom to inflict the physical and emotional pains as stated above. Still, she absolves herself of either scenario and “she is working on her issues’ now going on 8 years with no victory in sight.
    SO before I give up on my marriage I ask the original question above. I don’t know who would tell her God knows she wont listen to me, and I’m not all that positive God is getting through either.

    Thanks for the blog-

    1. Hi Steve. Because I do not know your marriage personally, I will speak in broad terms here. In addition to what I say, please know that it’s always wise to seek counsel from a therapist, pastor, or trusted friend – especially when you are thinking about “giving up on your marriage” (as you shared).
      In response to your question, I would say that a wife’s respect and love (from which flows sexual desire) stems from her focus on the Lord. Never will a godly focus steer a woman to disrespect or mistreat her husband as long as her beliefs are lined up with Scripture. The Bible talks about marriage reflecting Christ’s relationship with the Church, which is one of love and respect, among other things. For this reason, your wife’s faith and dependance on God should cause her to love and respect you as the Church does Christ. (Sin, of course, hinders this. However, like I said, I do not believe that a relationship with the Lord would ever cause a wife to ignore her marriage.)
      Please know I’m speaking broadly here from my personal experience and my view of Scripture. I pray that your marriage finds healing! And thank you for sharing here.

    2. Hi Steve,
      I sympathise with your situation, and I would like to apologise on behalf of your wife as a woman for inflicting such agony on your life. To be honest, a godly woman who professes to love the Lord will never at all abandon her marital duties to her husband irrespective of whatever situations unless she does have serious personal issues to deal with, such as buried past sexual sins or the hurt from past relationships. It would be a good idea if you can encourage her to have an intimate communication with you. Why don’t you take the lead? A woman usually does not withdraw from her husband if her life is not empty and fulfilling. Maybe you want to take a further step in examining yourself to see if you have done enough as a husband. It takes two to tango. Marriage fulfilment begins with ourselves and we can only do much positive changes to ourselves if we want to see a marriage thrives. Every man and woman is not exempted from making mistakes in life. You or your wife might have misjudged each other on certain occasions at some point that has led to her complete withdrawal from you. You need to check this out if you are still in love with her. I personally don’t advise you to arrive on a divorce route. I would suggest that you take some time and look further into the issue at hand. Such problem as what you are facing now can be a stepping stone to a stronger marriage between you and your wife. All you need to do is to put in effort and one of them is through communication. Gary Chapman wrote a fabulous book entitled “The 5 Love Languages”, and I highly recommend this book to you. He taught about learning the love languages of your spouse and there are 5 of them to explore. One effective tool to resolve your marriage issues is through prayers. Committing things into the Lord’s hand will put your heart much at ease and at peace with your wife, knowing that He is working on your issue and that His answer is on its way. God hates divorce, and in the Bible times, God permitted divorce because men’s hearts were hardened. I hope by the time you read this, you still haven’t given up on your marriage. Wait upon the Lord and let Him work it out for you as you make your effort in saving your marriage. I do understand how hard it is to love someone who doesn’t love us back in return with the kind of love we deserve. I’ve gone through this phase, not with a man but with my mum. I strongly advise you to take a Christ-centred lead in your family. Surround yourself with more biblical friends as you may take a cue or two to your current issues. Do not be afraid of seeking biblical counselling from a church, and counter check their words with the Scriptures so that you don’t go wrong. Leave the issue at hand for a moment, and learn to pursue God. Seek Him with all your heart and you will find Him, and of course the solution to your problem. As the Lord says, no problem is too big for Him to solve. So must our mindset be like. God is watching from Heaven, and He is waiting for you to come to Him with your concerns. Trust Him for an incredible outcome. God is beautiful!

  4. I pinned this on my Pinterest board months ago, and I just actually read the verses. Thank you, the verses you selected are very helpful and a reminder if we are seeking God then everything else will fall in order. I will be sharing with my sister circle. Many blessings to you!

  5. HI Alison. I’m new to your site and these Bible verses really came at the right time. I know that God’s Word and instructions are always right and best so I know that believing in and adhering to these verses will be fruitful for any wife. Thank you for allowing yourself to share wisdom based on your life and experiences. Being a Godly wife is no small feat and it’s true that we must respond different than the world would have us respond so that we honor the Lord. But, it’s difficult because our preferences and past get in the way- a lot! Thank you for welcoming us to your back porch. 😊

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