Why Saying No Might Actually Mean Saying Yes

There are two words that carry a lot of weight – maybe even more weight than most other words combined.

Yes and no.

These words carry so much weight that they are some of the first that we teach to babes. They are short and sweet, and yet, they have meaning. Deep meaning that can actually enslave.

I have trouble saying no.

How could saying no actually mean saying yes? Well, you see, God gives us joys and burdens for a reason. Here are my thoughts on how saying no might bring freedom!

I feel like an addict and should probably say, “Hi. My name is Alison and I’m an addict” because the burden of always saying ‘yes’ feels as strong as the stuff “real” addictions are made of.

My mom is a wise woman and one of the things she always used to say was “There can be too many good things.” The truth in that statement needs to sink into the pride of my heart daily.

Because when I’m going through the motions and saying yes and not being my best, there can be too many good things. So many good things, in fact, that they crowd out life.

Now I’m not saying that we should never say yes. We should say yes often.

But, saying no is something too many of us need to practice.  I need to practice letting my no be no, instead of crowding out the no with excuses and doubt and selfish thoughts about what those yes people are thinking. Because letting my no mean no allows my heart to be the best at my yes.

When I say no, my yes can mean more.

How could saying no actually mean saying yes? Well, you see, God gives us joys and burdens for a reason. Here are my thoughts on how saying no might bring freedom!

When I say no to that one thing that feels a little like a burden – no matter if it’s a good thing – I free up space inside my limited human body to be better at those things that bring life. To be better at the things I feel passionate towards. To be better at the things God has given me a hunger to do.

Because I think so often we feel like we have to do everything – we have to always say yes. And yet, God made us unique, with different joys and burdens and talents and offerings, so that we can better fulfill His mission on this big earth.

If we were all saying yes to every opportunity, our strength would be stretched mighty thin.

But – dream with me – if we were all saying yes to our heart and no to the extras, our strength would be magnified by the God who gives those heart desires.

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When you love something, you do your best. We should always want to be giving God our best.

And that means saying no might actually mean saying yes.

How could saying no actually mean saying yes? Well, you see, God gives us joys and burdens for a reason. Here are my thoughts on how saying no might bring freedom!

It will take practice, because I still try to make those excuses and I still wonder who I’m hurting and how this right decision for me is being perceived by others.  It is hard to give up the selfish satisfaction that can come from a packed schedule. But that packed schedule becomes drowning when the yes things feel like burden things. It feels suffocating when the yes things crowd out time at the feet of Jesus. It is exhausting when the yes things are not meant to be yes things.

We all need to learn that some things are meant to end in a no.

I think if we grasp this truth, we will be better able to serve, love, help, pray, provide.  We will work harder, do life with more strength, and give praise to the God who made us able to say yes. The God who gave you the joy of your chosen yes is the same God who carries that yes to completion. He finds joy in your unique ability.

It is easier to find joy in our yes when our no means no.


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